Virtuous, ​Self-Controlled, Respectable

Virtuous-having or showing high moral standards. Righteous, good, pure, saintly, angelic, moral, ethical, upright, upstanding, high-minded, principled, exemplary, law-abiding, irreproachable, blameless, guiltless, unimpeachable, immaculate, honest, honorable, reputable, laudable, decent, respectable, noble, worthy, meritorious, squeaky-clean. 

This is what the dictionary tells me that virtuous means.

Wow, a mouth full for sure! How do I measure up? Well, if I am honest, okay in some areas, not so much in others; at least according to me and maybe a few other people. How can we possibly ever hope to be all these things that we are told to be in Proverbs 31:10-28. I suddenly feel seriously is this an impossible standard to have. Is there no way we can get to this level as a human. 

It tells us that the price for a woman like the one described in these verses is high above rubies, but it does not say it is impossible. How then can we get there? I would venture to say first we ask for the Lord’s help. Then we put into practice the things that Jesus did as he walked this earth.

We love like he loved, we serve like he served, we sacrifice as he did. We cannot be selfish and self-centered and be like Jesus. 

I want to be the woman described in these verses. I want my husband’s heart to safely trust in me. I want to live my life first of all to please the Lord and in doing that I should be able to say that I am this kind of woman. God does not set unreachable goals for us. He clearly states who we are to be as Christian’s, and he fills us with his spirit to help us along the way. I may not be a full Proverbs 31 woman, but I am certainly giving it my best each and every day. Some days I do well and others not so much. How about you ladies? Where are you in the process?

Now, turning my attention to the men in the group what does God tell us about you and how you should be. 

Let’s see as we read in Colossians 3:19 “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.


Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.


1 Timothy 5:8 “But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied that faith and is worse than an unbeliever.


Ephesians 5:28 “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.


1 Timothy 3:2 “Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, and able to teach.


Ephesians 5:23 “For the husband is head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.”

How do you line up?

Here is what I know, it is never too late to start over, or to try harder. If men will love Christ and allow him to be the head of his heart then men will be all they need to be to their wives and families and if for any reason we as woman and men falter in our efforts to be what God says we should be in his word, remember to be gracious and loving and above all and forgiving! 

God does not set us up for failure but for success. Read it and apply it…and follow closely at the feet of Jesus. 

2 thoughts on “Virtuous, ​Self-Controlled, Respectable

    1. We all need a goof reminder from time to time! Glad it blessed you!


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